Unfinished Business

According to Washington Post reporter Joe Holley, Mel White quit his position as speechwriter and ghost writer for Jerry Falwell in 1994 when he [White] announced he was gay. White continued to attend Falwell’s church and they remained friends. In the interview White said, “I invested so much in believing he could change, but he went and died instead.” My first reaction was, why would you even think that a Christian of Falwell’s character would ever consider changing his stance on homosexuality? Then, the more I thought about it, I realized it’s not beyond the realm of possibility. We’ve all seen the homosexual agenda forcing change in religious leaders and denominations. Apparently Mr. White thought if it can happen with others, it could happen with Jerry Falwell. Hopefully, when the time comes for someone to eulogize Mr. White they won’t be saying, “…but he went and died instead.”

Meeting God

I caught a snippet of a TV interview with a deep-sea diver who found himself in deep trouble while swimming with sharks. Describing his fear he said, “It’s as near to God as you can get. The trick is to stay near to God - and not meet Him.” Obviously the man has some level of understanding about God, mortality and judgment. Eventually we’re all going to meet the Lord, but for believers the trick is to stay near to God - and be ready to meet Him.

Creative Editing

We know there are always two sides to every story. Whether it’s a news program, a reality TV show or the retelling of a story, there’s an element of creative editing involved. Although we might hear only portions of a story, the reality is we’ll never know all the details behind every situation. It’s my perception that Christians often feel an obligation to know the whole story before they can offer an opinion or view. After all, who wants to be labeled a gossip or be charged with leading someone astray for not having all the facts? Actually, I think God has told us just enough of the story so we’ll have the desire to express our opinions and views.

Leveling a Church

More and more we’re hearing about denominations breaking up. Whether a major congregational split, a small group splintering off, or a local body ignoring their higher authority, denominations are showing signs of stress fractures. Discussing the turmoil a friend recently said, “If God can destroy His own temple, then He certainly isn’t above destroying a church.” Say what? We usually think in terms of God disciplining and pruning the church, but few of us can imagine God destroying my church. Can you envision God destroying your church?

Accountability

Vying for a million dollars the final three contestants on Survivor Fiji got an ear full from the jury of their peers. I was especially interested in the confrontation between Boo, a member of the jury, and Dreamz, a runner-up. Not only did Dreamz seal a promise by swearing an oath to God , he portrayed himself as a street survivor, a man of faith, a truth teller and one who wanted his son to be proud of him. In reality, he was none of those. Boo verbally confronted Dreamz’s by comparing his actions with his professed Christianity. It was hard to listen to, but what a powerful statement. On one hand I felt embarrassed for Christianity being publicly flayed on primetime TV, but on the other hand, Christian hypocrisy needs to be exposed. Later during an interview Boo was asked about his aggressiveness toward Dreamz. He said, “I think Dreamz wants to do the right thing [to be a man of his word]. I wanted to pull that out of him.” When we fail to do the right thing, we need others who are willing to pull it out of us.

Evangelism

An older preacher told me about serving in his first congregation. As a young man he’d inherited a couple of elders who were on the calling committee, but they were terrible at calling. “Their hearts were in the right place, but you just can’t go around telling people they’re going to hell [if they don’t respond to your efforts]. I’d try going behind them with a follow-up call and nobody would talk to me.” Out of respect for age and eldership, it was a touchy situation for the young minister. “I thought if I tried to stop these particular elders from calling, I’d be loosing two while I was trying to reach one.” I ask how the situation was finally resolved and he said, “Preachers can just let a program die, and that’s what we did.” Believers really do have good intentions - just not always the best bedside manner.

Now I See the Difference

During a recent forum I used the word Spanish in reference to a local non-profit program. As soon as the group took a break a woman approached me saying, “You shouldn’t use the word Spanish. We don’t want to be called Spanish, we’re Hispanics. People from Spain are Spanish, we’re Hispanics.” Although she probably thought she was helping to correct future faux pas, I was caught off guard. Jesus wants us to look at the heart, without seeing culture or nationality. I’d never seen any difference between us, until she pointed it out.

Salesman

Whether in person, on the phone or through the mail, I really dislike salesmen. At the top of my list is the car salesman. On a car shopping trip my daughter encountered a creative salesman who used flattery as a hook – he told her the interior of a car matched the color of her eyes. Recently I’ve been seeing a podiatrist who could double for a car salesman. Although I went to him concerning nerve pain in one foot, he’s pushing me to buy orthotics. Discovering I have a high deductible medical insurance, he was quick to let me know that many of his clients prefer purchasing orthotics out of pocket. I’m hoping my foot heals soon, because I dread every high pressure appointment. I wonder how often non-believers view the Christian as a salesman. Are we so zealous about saving souls that people feel we’re trying to hook them for Jesus?

Accepting Leadership

It’s not unusual to see men who don’t or won’t, for what ever reason, take on leadership roles. Years ago a member of a congregation asked the newly hired preacher what his plans were for the church and he said, “Build up the men.” Not that the men were weak, but out of an attendance of 360 people [including children], there were only 39 men. The preacher recalled, “It was an interesting little church. If it weren’t for the women holding it together, the doors would have closed. They kept the church going. It was amazing though, when men started attending, the women were thrilled to turn over the leadership responsibility to them.” A church is blessed when men step forward and accept their leadership-birthright - and when women let them fulfill their role.

Dress Code

I recently had the opportunity to be in the audience during the videotaping for Liz Curtis Higgs’, ‘Slightly Bad Girls of the Bible’ and ‘Embrace Grace’. The dress code for the women only event was, “Sunday attire. Brightly-colored clothes are best. No hats, please, so we can see your beautiful faces.” The audience represented a broad spectrum of ages, but I was surprised to see how casually many of the ladies were dressed. Obviously in today’s church we each have our own interpretation of what constitutes ‘Sunday attire’. One elderly lady walked into the auditorium wearing a hat and taking a seat behind me said to her friend, “I know they said not to wear hats, but I didn’t wash my hair today.” With the way we bend or even ignore instructions, I can see how Scripture falls victim to man’s individual interpretation.

On the Back of the Missionary

Once upon a time there was a church that gave 50% of its tithes and offerings to missions. Each week members put gifts in offering envelopes, checking off the designation where they wanted the money directed. A new preacher was hired who wanted a larger and more modern looking building. According to one member, “There was a lot of ego in the mix - and it didn’t all belong to the preacher. When the building fund was added as a designation on the offering envelope, money shifted. It wasn’t long before missions dropped to a small fraction of what it had been. We got a new building, but I think it was built on the backs of our missionaries.” Interestingly, attendance has never grown in the new church building. I guess the old church was adequate after all.

The Invitation

As a child growing up I loved getting invited to a girlfriend’s house, but I rarely reciprocated. My somewhat dysfunctional family (alcoholic father) and home life wasn’t conducive to having friends over. Similarly, when the church has periods where the congregation resembles a dysfunctional family I feel my childhood anxieties and embarrassment returning. I just can’t bring myself to invite someone ‘home’ while the family is in upheaval. By its very nature, evangelism dictates we invite people to church. During troubled times saying my church is wonderful would feel like presenting an invitation under false pretense.

Field of Dreams

One of the quotes in Kevin Costner’s baseball film Field of Dreams is, “Build it and they will come.” I think the mindset of today’s church finance committee might well be, ‘Budget it and they will give.’ Our church financial report lists the amount of tithes received, the amount budgeted and the amount spent (year to date). When the monthly offering falls short of the budget, the report in the newsletter becomes a not-so-subtle reminder that we’ve failed to meet an obligation. On occasion I’ve been guilty of tithing to the budget rather than tithing to the Lord. I have to remind myself it’s not my budget, responsibility or obligation. My only stewardship responsibility is to the Lord.

Phew in the Pew

The last few years I’ve stopped going to church on holidays like Mother’s Day, Christmas and Easter. Not that I’m avoiding the crowd caused by once-a-year folks, but I’m keeping my distance from ladies bathed in perfume. We’re not talking about the scent of just a couple roses here, but rather being surrounded by a combination of honeysuckle, herbs, lavender, spices, strawberries, lemons, sea breezes, tropical sun, musk and lilacs. I can’t be sure, but I think I’ve even detected Evening in Paris in the mix. Many habitual perfume wearers are desensitized, but for those of us suffering from chemical allergies, the saturation of fragrance makes us sick and in my case, it also distorts a Christian attitude. Rather than being in a worship service, I feel like I’m sitting in the middle by a blooming garden with a headache, itchy eyes and congestion. Quite honestly, it’s not worth attending church if I’m going to be sick the rest of the day. It’s one thing to be a pleasing aroma to the God, it’s quite another to be a phew in the pew.

Serving Hash

Sometimes people get weary of listening to others hash and re-hash a situation. Their attitude becomes, ‘It’s in the past… I’m tired of hearing about it… and I don’t want to listen to it again, so move on.’ For some however, hashing is the way to sort through a problem or a burden while trying to put it to rest. I think Peter needed a listening ear after his thrice-denial of Christ, and likewise Paul for his role in persecuting the church. I can image Martha telling and re-telling her friends she regretted doing household chores when she should have been focusing on the Lord. We wouldn’t tell Peter, Paul or Martha to just ‘get over it’, nor should we turn a deaf ear to someone who needs a listening ear.

What's to debate?

Colorado’s largest Episcopal parish voted to leave the denomination and join a missionary diocese. Associated Press writer Colleen Slevin states, “The Episcopal Church is the U.S. wing of the world wide Anglican Communion, a fellowship of churches that traces its roots to the Church of England. Anglicans have been debating for decades how they should interpret Scripture on salvation, truth and sexuality.” The Word is perfectly clear – and that’s the problem. Debate has become a tool of justification for those trying to save themselves, make their own truth, and condone homosexuality. Halleluiah and Amen to people who bravely stand against those who bend the Word in order to conform to a lifestyle.

In the Dark

I just read a column in the Denver Post written by Diane Carman titled, ‘Why do men earn more? Just because.’ Delving into the pay inequity and disparity between men and women, Ms. Carman quotes a source as saying, “The biggest problem is that we usually don’t know what others are being paid. We’re in the dark.” This problem is not limited to men vs. women, nor confined to corporate America, it’s also found it in the church. More than once my request for salary information on our church staff has been turned down. In one conversation with the Chairman of the Elders I was told such information would not be released because all staff salaries weren’t paid on the same scale. One of the implied reasons for non-disclosure was to avoid the possibility staff comparing their salaries with one another and having hurt feelings. OK, I get it – just because.

Gullible

My adult Sunday school teacher recently cautioned the class, “There’s a lot of money to be made in faith issues. People [we] want to do right by God and many are making money on our desire to please God.” When we hear reports of financial improprieties in churches, it’s hard to contemplate the same might occur in our church and with people we know and trust. However, in reality it is happening in my church, your church and the early church. Paul mentions those who want to peddle the word of God for profit in 1 Cor 2:17. Expounding on the verse, the NIV Study Bible footnote says, “Paul is referring to false teachers who had infiltrated the Corinthian church. Such persons – themselves insecure, self-sufficient and boastful – artfully presented themselves in a persuasive manner, and their chief interest was to make money from gullible church members…” I think we should be on the watch for false teachers and those who want to make money on the church – if for no other reason than to avoid being labeled ‘gullible’.

Not Guilty

In my leadership class (secular) we listened to presentations from local and state law enforcement. At one point the discussion turned toward the subject of the polygraph. Considering the sensitivity of the machine, a quick witted member said, “Those of us with Catholic backgrounds are guilty no matter what.” She does have a point. Self-imposed guilt and allowing others to send us on guilt trips are often side effects of trying to live a Christian life. We really want to do what is pleasing to God. I think the antidote for the unwarranted guilt would be to know Scripture. The more we mature in the Word, the easier it is to distinguish between a conscience pricked by the Spirit and one that is being needled by man.

Reading Between the Lines

I’ve found the church is not above using high pressure marketing techniques. Under the title of Giving of Our Tithes & Offerings our church bulletin links worship to tithing saying, “Giving is a part of our church’s worship. Our guests are not expected to give, but may do so if they like. Please place offerings in collection boxes located in the back of the Auditorium.” While visitors may be relieved to know they are not expected to give financially, the message for the members is, ‘Listen up. Guests are under no obligation to give, but you are. The church expects you to give – both in tithes and offerings – and failing to do so affects the church’s worship.’ So, how long can one get away with being a guest?

Resist

In the season opener of the Sci-Fi Channel’s Stargate Atlantis, the evil Asurans probed the minds of captives Gen. Jack O’Neill and bureaucratic Richard Woolsey. With his unconventional thought process, O’Neill’s mind gave up very little information. However, on discovery that Woolsey’s mind oozed vital information to the enemy, O’Neill turned to him and said, “Way to resist!” What a great line - and so appropriate for believes when we fail to resist the devil. “Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” James 4:7 NIV

Not Needed

New York Times reporter Laurie Goodstein wrote about the role the church is playing in the lives of Latinos’. A quote from Edgar Chilin, who immigrated from Guatemala 25 years ago, caught my attention. “We pray to God when we feel the need to, but when we come here to America, we don’t feel the need.” I don’t know about you, but I can hear multiple sermon topics coming from this statement. Personally, I can’t get through a day without prayer, so I’m having difficulty comprehending not feeling the need to pray. I don't wish Edgar any ill-will, but I’m praying that something happens in his American lifestyle which shows him the ‘need to pray to God’.

I'm a Good Person

What do a convicted felon, a TV actor in a network drama and radio talk show host Don Imus have in common? In separate instances all three recently attempted to put a shine on their tarnished image by saying, “I’m a good person”. The Apostle Paul makes an interesting observation and offers sound advice when he says, “We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.” (2 Cor 10:12 NIV)

Really in Need

One time I was in the church office when a little girl came in with her mother and grandmother. The child, quite fashionable for a four-year old, was wearing trendy jeans and brand new Nike tennis shoes trimmed in pink. The mother, who didn’t attend our church, was asking for money to help pay her electric bill. At the time finances in my family were tight and my children were wearing off brand shoes, hand-me-down clothes and riding Christmas bicycles purchased at the Salvation Army. I don’t know the particulars of the mother’s situation or the outcome of her request, but I will tell you I didn’t have a Good Samaritan bone in my body. I know the standards for measuring ‘the poor’ have changed over the years, but it seemed to me then, as it does now, that wearing the coolest fashion of the day doesn’t qualify one as being ‘really in need’.

In Remembrance

To the Virginia Tech Family: May you find Peace through the Lord and be comforted with precious memories.

Pre-Qualify

I’ve just read through a Personal Commitment form for a church in my community. Before having a membership relationship with this church one must of course believe in Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior. Additional requirements for the prospective member are sharing their personal testimony with a selected elder team member, attending the church introduction class and completing the discipleship training. The candidate must also be maintaining a lifestyle of growth, service and commitment to Christ and to the mission of the XYZ Church. Last but not least the candidate must be willing to live in harmony with the articles [of the denomination], the Statement of Faith, Articles of Incorporation, Bylaws and the policies of the church. What ever happened to ‘Come Just as You Are?’

Benevolence

A family in our church who’ve been members for over 20 years was going through a rough time. The family of seven consisted of a husband and wife, four children and an elderly mother. As the wife was undergoing chemo and radiation treatment for breast cancer, the husband had a seizure while at work and was forced to take some time off. Finances deteriorated rapidly and they didn’t have the money to make the rent payment. “We were going to be evicted in 24 hours and it took everything I had to ask the church for help. It was desperation and a last resort.” The couple was told after speaking with one of the ministers they would have to go through financial counseling with the benevolence committee before the church would give them any assistance. Referring to the new church guidelines the minister said, “That’s just the way we do things now.” Let’s get this straight, 24 hours to call a meeting, undergo financial counseling, and get approval. I’m sorry, but I just can’t see the early church requiring the needy to jump through hoops and over the obstacles in order to get help.

Guilt Free Forwards

Sometimes I’ll get a forward I really enjoy - that is until I get to the end and find a message that says, ‘If you love God, you’ll help send this message around the world.’ Or, ‘If you send this to 10 people in the next 10 minutes you will be blessed.’ Urrg! It’s irritating and I doubt God’s impressed with men’s attempt to prove their love or secure blessings. Really, I don’t get the school yard mentality of a document creator trying to bully recipients into passing on jokes and pictures under the umbrella of spirituality. Trust me, if the message is good I’ll forward it to my friends and relatives without the promise of a blessing - and without someone telling me to do so.

Mini-Mega Church

I just read Jim & Casper Go To Church, written by Jim Henderson & Matt Casper. Jim (a longtime Christian) hired Casper (an atheist) to accompany him in visiting twelve of America’s best - and least – known churches. In the Forward George Barna states, “Marketers sometimes use a ‘mystery shopper’ – an unannounced, anonymous observer, who is secretly sent into a client’s environment to note what the experience is like for a typical outsider. In a sense, Casper was sent as a mystery shopper to examine the church environment in America.” I’m still digesting what I’ve read and I’m vacillating between two thoughts. Is it an eye opener or a black eye for the church in general? Most churches in America will not reach mega-church status – but that doesn’t keep them from trying. It’s interesting to read what’s happening in the mega-church and thought provoking to realize my mid-size church is emulating them even down to phraseology. I highly recommend this book to the average person in the pew. Not that it wouldn’t be a good read for leaders, but they, being the architects shaping today’s church, won’t be happy seeing their creations exposed.

Protection

Recently I went on a field trip to the state capitol with my leadership class. As guests of our Representative, we sat on the floor of the House and listened to the discussion on bills before the legislature. Later during an informal question and answer period our Representative said, “It’s not always about what we can do for you (constituents), it’s often about what we protect you from.” I think the same can be said of God. We’re so busy looking to have our needs met and be blessed, that we fail to consider God's protection. Thankfully, He even protects us from ourselves.

Need to Know

On a church membership application under ‘personal information’ two of the questions asked were to name your previously attended church and your reason for leaving. It’s an easy answer if you left a church because you were relocating to another community. However, people often change churches in the same town and for a variety of reasons such as conflicts, sexual immorality or wayward teaching. While those reasons might come up in an informal conversation with others, I doubt anyone would state their reasons honestly in writing. My question is why does a prospective church need to know your reason for leaving a previous church and how is it pertinent to placing membership? This type of inquiry is something I’d expect to hear in a premarital counseling session like, “Why did you divorce you first husband?”

Quantified

Service clubs and organizations have membership applications, but I just can’t wrap my head around a church membership application. I recently read a Membership Application for one of our local churches which states that after completing the form the applicant will be contacted “to set up a pre-membership interview (usually within 2-3 weeks). Subject to the interview, your membership will be voted on for approval at the next scheduled membership meeting.” What ever happened to going forward during an invitation, accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, and being baptized? In the time it took to confess Christ, put on a baptismal robe, go into the baptistery, you were welcomed into the Family of God. I just can’t hear Jesus saying, “After your interview, in two or three weeks – Follow Me”. Nor can I imagine Paul telling the Gentiles the Jews would be voting on their membership. I understand why churches want to quantify their membership; I’m just not convinced it’s complementary to New Testament evangelism.

This One's For You

I struggle, and sometimes hurdle, Scripture that requires interpretation of figurative language. I’d have been totally lost if the Gospels had recorded the parables, but failed to include their meaning. Peter asked Jesus, “Lord, are you telling this parable to us, or to everyone?” (Luke 12:41 NIV) Reading between the lines I think Peter is wondering, ‘If it’s for me, do I need to take notes? Will I be able to unscramble this parable without help? Will you consider me dull if it has to be explained?’ All Scripture is profitable and I try to understand it, but I have a feeling when I get to heaven I’ll be sent to preschool for the Parable-Challenged and Revelation 101.

Statement of Faith by Committee

Many churches and religious organizations have a Statement of Faith. The first one I read had seven simple ‘We believe…’ statements about the Word of God, Jesus, the Trinity, the Holy Spirit, the resurrection, etc. I’ve recently read a Statement of Faith which has the basics, but it’s almost doubled in size as leaders have customized it to their congregation. One statement says, “In the personal and premillenial (sp) and imminent coming of our Lord Jesus Christ ….” If I’m reading this correctly, the denomination expects its members to subscribe to the premillennial view. Good Luck! I’ve never seen a body of believers agree on that issue. Actually, I personally find great sport in debating pre-, post- and amillennial views. I see this as an issue for personal interpretation of Scripture rather than it being a Statement of Faith.

Clue By Clue 'Till You Know Who

A youth pastor was called into the senior pastor’s office and told he’d offended someone in the congregation. The youth pastor was prepared to make amends, but rather than revealing the offended party’s name the senior pastor simply stated, “You need to pray about it and let God reveal it to you.” Certainly we know God reveals things to us when we ask, but I’d have been thinking, ‘You’ve already got the answer. Surly God wouldn’t mind if you give me a clue.’ Eventually the youth pastor concluded the offended party was more than likely the pastor’s wife. Placing this scenario in the business world, I can’t imagine an administrator telling an employee to think (pray) about who in the office they’ve offended. Scripture simply states we’re to go to one another when there’s an offense, leave it to man to complicate things.

Stepping Back

My Grandpa was a sociable guy. Although he tried his hand at various occupations, he’d rather visit with friends and play the fiddle for community dances than have a dependable job. Grandma on the other hand was industrious. After raising five children she turned their home into a boarding house in order to save the homestead. Grandpa resented the boarders and Grandma came to regret taking on the role of bread winner. In hind sight Grandma said, “I should have stepped back and forced him to make the living, even if it meant losing our home.” In the church it’s not unusual to see women take on a leadership role for much the same reason. The Biblical role of leadership falls squarely on the shoulders of men and in some cases church leadership has been weakened by women who are trying to share the load. It might be surprising to see the outcome if women took a step back - for better or for worse.

Is It Working Yet?

As well as the logo and motto, new leadership often changes the personality and direction of a church. For the last few years the focus of my church has been on the family unit. In promoting intergenerational activities, adult family members are now expected to accompany their children to Sunday school and youth group. Imagine the uproar if this scenario were reversed and children were required to attend adult classes with their parents. I’m not sure what criteria are used in determining success, but it’s ironic that in many cases, something purported to unify families is in fact causing separation. We are witnessing third and fourth generation church families splintering as some go window shopping at other churches. In my experience leaders rarely discontinue a program admitting that it isn’t working. In the mean time I guess we’ll just have to wait for their next vision.

Job Description

One of our past church staff started to walk past a lady struggling to roll a piano to another location in the Fellowship Hall. When she asked him for help, he continued walking and replied, “That’s not in my job description.” Say what? I’m so glad his sister in Christ didn’t ask him to wash her feet.

Turning a Blind Eye

I found this interesting trivia in The Facts on File: Dictionary of Clichés. “In 1801 Lord Horatio Nelson, second in command of the English fleet, was besieging Copenhagen. The flagship had sent up signals for the fleet to withdraw, but Nelson wanted badly to attack. He had lost the sight of one eye at Calvi, so he put the glass to the blind eye and told his lieutenant he could see no signals to withdraw. His attack forced the French to surrender, a major victory.” There are instances in our lives, and in the life of the church, when we want something so badly, we turn a blind eye. We ignore the Spirit, refuse wise counsel and look past red flags. I doubt God is impressed with the blind eye excuse from His children.

Unexposed

The scandal at Walter Reed Army Medical Center continues to be in the news. I appreciate the media exposure of shabby medical treatment, living conditions and ridiculous red tape that our military personnel have dealt with. However, I can’t imagine anyone wishing this scandal had remained unexposed - unless of course you were one of the heads that rolled. Sometimes Christianity is no different than Walter Reed. Whether it’s our personal life, or the life of the church, exposure of a spiritually neglected house forces us to make improvements.

Next Generation

With ever increasing wickedness in the world, what parent doesn’t worry about the spiritual fight lying ahead for their children and grandchildren? Actually, if I let myself dwell on it, my tendency is to say, ‘Come, Lord Jesus - tomorrow.’ Luke puts things in perspective when he tells us, “For when David had served God’s purpose in his own generation, he fell asleep; he was buried with his fathers and his body decayed.” (Acts 13:36 NIV) I’m realizing the parental desire to spare my grandchildren from spiritual battles in the future would in reality deprive them of their opportunity to serve God in their own generation.

Too Much

How do you tell someone they talk too much about their family? More and more preachers and TV evangelists alike are using their family members as sermon illustrations and anecdotes. Trying not to sound critical, one woman told me, “I come to church to hear the Word preached. I’m tired of hearing the preacher’s self-indulgent boasting about his family.” Understandably a speaker connects better with his audience by telling them something on a personal level. Certainly preachers are proud of their children, as are those of us in the congregation, but then no one’s offering us a microphone.

Setting Aside

My Sunday school teacher noted the church at Ephesus was small in comparison to the population. “People could go all day without meeting another Christian. In order to keep from feeling alone, they had to have unity in Christ.” In today’s church the call for unity is geared more toward issues, than toward Christ. For instance we’ve all heard the unity trumpet sound a call in areas of women priests, same sex marriage and the latest trend in visions. Jesus told the Pharisees, “You have a fine way of setting aside the commands of God in order to observe your own traditions!" (Mark 7:9 NIV) Not unlike the Pharisees, we seem to be setting aside unity in Christ in order to give priority to unity in issues

Unreal

Two struggling churches in rural Kansas combine forces and formed one congregation. The group agreed to have worship services in the newest and largest of their buildings, which happened to be seven miles from town. As time went on however, the pastor concluded that in order to grow the church needed to be located closer to town. Putting the property on the market, they abandoned their new building and rented a school in town for the worship services. Attendance dropped and tensions flared as parishioners questioned spending money to rent a school while their new church building seven miles away sat empty. Growing friction was played out in the local newspaper when the pastor was quoted as saying, “The real Christians are sticking through this [rough time].” So that's how real Christians are measured.

Judging Repentance

Sometime back I scheduled Bob (name changed) to teach a Sunday school class. A week before the class an elder phoned to say that Bob would not be allowed to teach. According to the caller, Bob had to address a situation in his past and properly repent before he could teach in the church. I phoned Bob for verification and clarification. Without sharing specific details Bob said the situation had been dealt with - albeit not entirely to the satisfaction of the member of leadership who called. I find this a fascinating dilemma. It seems to me that judging another’s repentance might well fall in the same category as judging someone else’s salvation. Without malice Bob, a past elder himself, submitted to the restrictions placed on him as a teacher. We should all be so mature and forgiving…

Getting to the Text

I tuned into a TV evangelist whose topic for the day was Bible prophesy. The speaker began his presentation by saying the Christian community neglects prophesy. “We hear so little about it and no one preaches on it.” I thought he might be on point as he sprinkled his message with a few verses from Revelation, but he just kept returning to the churches lack of prophetic study. After a half hour I wanted to say, ‘You’ve just wasted my time. Rather than opening the Biblical text, you chose to lament what slackers we are in the study of prophesy.’ Too bad this preacher isn’t convicted by his own words, “We hear so little about it and no one preaches on it.”

The Power of the Pulpit

On Colorado’s Front Range a youth pastor at a mega church felt God directing him to make long range plans for planting a church. When the senior pastor got wind of the idea formulating in the mind of the youth minister he moved quickly. Imagine the surprise of the youth pastor upon hearing the public announcement that he’d no longer be working with the youth because he was leaving the congregation. My source for this incident indicates the senior pastor has total control of this church. He cautioned, “Don’t give the location of this church. If the pastor thinks you’re talking about him and his church [in the blog], he’ll come after both of us!” I had to laugh at the truthfulness of the statement, but at the same time it’s embarrassing that we allow church leaders to strike fear in the hearts of believers.

Homeless

Few possessions, eating out of trash cans and poor hygiene are often indicators of homelessness. I think those who saw the prodigal son during his pig-feeding days might well have thought him to be homeless. The young man wanting to “fill his stomach with the pods that the pigs were eating” (Luke 15) sounds like New Testament dumpster diving to me. Local bystanders would never have guessed this young man had a home and a family waiting patiently for his return. Certainly there are many reasons for being homeless, but I believe some people are homeless by choice. I wonder how many people wandering the streets of the US are in reality just modern day prodigals who have yet to 'come to their senses'.

Calling Your Sheep by Name

For three years my friend spent 5 to 10 hours a week volunteering in the youth program at her mega church in Denver. While explaining that the senior pastor was good at delegating and running the church like a business, she went on to say, “You want to know what’s really interesting though? During all that time I never once met the head pastor. I suppose had I attended the banquet for volunteers I might have been introduced to him. But no, I’ve never met the man.” Wow. Biggie sizing the church gives a whole new meaning to shepherds knowing their sheep.

Diversity

The topic of my recent leadership class was diversity in our community. In a politically correct manner we addressed tolerance and inclusion. The panel discussion touched on everything from race, to handicaps, to sexual orientation. In sharing our thoughts a young male classmate said, “The problem [with diversity] in this area are all the Christian conservatives.” During a break the instructor approached our small group and wanted to know how the session was being received and understood. Personally, the homosexual issue is a door I’d rather not open – but she started it, so what were we to do? I’m always amazed at the notion that Christians are free to set aside Biblical instructions for the sake of the secular agenda. The instructor ended the side bar by saying to a couple of us, “So what you’re saying is that you’re really not flexible. I’m surprised.” So much for diversity.

AWOL

A small church on Colorado’s Eastern Slope struggled through a split in the congregation and the hiring of another pastor. With waning attendance the new pastor decided membership would be determined by tithing records and attendance records. Members could not miss more than one Sunday a month or their names would be removed from membership. One woman, a member of the congregation for over 40 years, was devastated when her membership was pulled because she’d gone on a trip to visit her children and grandchildren. Adding insult to injury, her husband retained his membership because he stayed home rather than going with her for the family visit. Apparently there was no provision to save up and bank decades of past attendance. Developing a Badge of Comradeship, people soon began to laugh with one another over their non-member status. It’s not surprising that the non-members found strength in one another, or that the pastor and his innovative ideas have moved on.

Limited

Recently I saw a truck with the company name ‘Great Services, Ltd.’ printed on the side. I think that’s a fitting motto for some of us in our ministries. We get so busy serving that we fail to recognize there is a limit to our great service. On more than one occasion I’ve had to plead with the Lord, ‘Please just get me through this one event. I’ll try hard to never again volunteer for something where I have to ask You to come and bail me out.” The truth be known, the Lord probably enjoys those times when I’m forced to cry out, ‘save me’. What a perfect opportunity to remind me He’s the one who’s Unlimited.

There is a Difference

The pulpit committee for a church in south eastern Colorado had a difficult time finding a qualified Pastor. They finally hired a Teacher with the hope that in time he would develop into a Preacher. According to one member, “The worship service turned into a weekly Bible study and the congregation eventually showed their lack of acceptance by not coming to services.” The Apostle Paul tells us, “And in the church God has appointed first of all apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then workers of miracles, also those having gifts of healing, those able to help others, those with gifts of administration, and those speaking in different kinds of tongues.” 1 Cor 12:28 (NIV) I believe one of the biggest mistakes made in the church today is thinking leaders are appointed to wear multiple hats.

Niche Appeal

Standing in front of a magazine display at a bookstore it seems there are fewer magazines for the general audience than there are for the niche audience. Although I could probably learn something from reading magazines on body building, motorcycles and romance, I’m more likely to read something that pertains to a general audience. It’s my sense that many of today’s leaders are attempting to carve out a niche market on the religious landscape. In developing a narrow focus and vision they may be serving a bountiful buffet to one group, when all the while they are offering scraps and leftovers to others. The Gospel is meant for the general audience and it seems to me that religious institutions would benefit by broadening their focus.

Dead or Alive

As my husband nears retirement we’ve discussed income, savings and survivor benefits. In looking at survivor benefits, it doesn’t take a CPA to know that he is worth more to me alive than he is dead. In good natured fun I told Bill that if the need ever arose, I might seriously consider keeping him hooked up to a machine in order to maintain my same standard of living. All joking aside, I’m now wondering how God feels about the dead or alive scenario and my question is, “Am I worth more to God dead or alive?”

Love Offering

One Bible Study meets Sunday evenings in the church auditorium and is made up mostly of older folks. We used to put out an offering plate and the money collected allowed us to purchase materials, help out a missionary and even splurge on an occasional ice cream social. Disapproving of the way we spent the funds, church authorities ruled that our collections had to be put in the church’s general fund. Although I have no way of knowing, I’ve wondered if other small group Bible studies were placed under the same restrictions. The offering plate is now collecting dust. That’s one way to wipe the smile off the face of a cheerful giver.

What's Being Taught?

Years ago I picked up an old Bible that someone left in a pew. There was no name in the Bible, but the owner’s handwritten note on the inside cover said, “Whatever you accept, you teach.” I was so taken with this little ditty that I wrote it in my Bible as well, and I continue to use it as a standard in my personal life. I believe speaking up on issues in the church is one of the most difficult things we are called to do. The Apostle Paul is a good example of one who boldly spoke out about situations that were askew in the church. Whether it was a personal observation or a hearsay report, Paul confronted the issues. He certainly didn’t look the other way when Peter tried to separate himself from Gentiles believers, nor when Alexander the metalworker opposed the message. What are we teaching in today’s church by the things we’ve accepted?

The T-Word (Tithe)

I recently heard a television evangelist say, “We’re able to come to you because of your tithes and offerings. We want to thank you for your support.” I thought this was a bold statement and I can almost hear the church screaming foul. We’re taught that the local church has dibs on the tithe and that donations to other missions are to be over and above the tithe. Normally organizations outside the local church who seek financial support are careful to avoid the word tithe and prefer to use words like gift, offering or support. To my recollection the New Testament doesn’t make a clear distinction between a tithe, an offering or a sacrificial gift. Nor does is it define or restrict to whom our gifts are to be given. I can tithe to a missionary or a TV evangelist just as cheerfully as I can to the local church

Sticks 'n Stones

When my daughter was in her teens she participated in Bible Bowl, a program similar to Knowledge Bowl. If a student stayed in the program from the 7th grade through the 12th, they would have committed almost a fourth of the Bible to memory. Because Leslie went to church every Sunday and was knowledgeable in Scripture, her high school peers considered her religious. Interestingly, it was the Youth Minister rather than peers, who labeled her a Bible Thumper during her Sunday school class. And then we wonder why adults won’t study the Bible.

Yet Again...

On February 23, 2007 AP writer Jeff Latzke reported on yet another minister’s sexual indiscretion. Rev. Lonnie W. Latham resigned and stepped down from position as pastor of South Tulsa Baptist Church and as a member of the executive committee for the Southern Baptist Convention. According to authorities, Mr. Latham “asked the undercover policeman to come up to his hotel for oral sex.” I believe public exposure is one deterrent to sexual immorality and I’m thankful when that type of sin in the church is revealed. The acts of sexual immorality in leadership are disturbing, but I’m much more bothered by the pride, arrogance and ego behind the cover-up. A prime example is King David with Bathsheba - and that’s exactly the point, there is an example. It seems as though today’s religious leaders think God isn’t looking and that exposure couldn’t happen to them.

Guarding the Closet Door

On February 19, 2007 the Associated Press gave an update on the situation surrounding Ted Haggard’s encounter with a male prostitute. The report coming from Colorado Springs says, “Numerous individuals reported knowledge of New Life Church founder Ted Haggard’s struggle with a ‘dark side’, leading to his departure from the mega church, a member of the church’s board of overseers told parishioners Sunday.” I find it disturbing, but not surprising that numerous individuals had knowledge of Haggard’s dark side and yet did not expose him. I think the church resembles the world when it comes to being a whistle blower. We too are afraid of losing ministry positions, of being labeled a dissenter and of being expelled if we dare speak up. Does it seem to you that we fear men more than we fear God?

A Master's Performance

Concert pianist Randall Atcheson was part of the writer’s conference I recently attended. Mr. Atcheson “became the only student in the history of The Julliard School ever allowed to pursue, and receive, simultaneous degrees in piano and organ performance.” He has performed at Carnegie Hall and is on the International roster of Steinway Artists. Conducting the music for our General Sessions, I was taken back when Mr. Atcheson told us not only would we be singing hymns, but we would be singing all the verses! What, no praise songs? Actually, we did have a blended worship service. In control of a master’s hands, the hymns were revitalized and intensified. While some in the audience lifted holy hands in praise to these beloved favorites, I struggled to sing past the lump in my throat.

Keeper of the Money Bag

I’m sure the Apostles were surprised and disappointed to learn that one of their own was less than trustworthy. Judas, “…was a thief; as keeper of the money bag, he used to help himself to what was put into it.” (John 12:6b NIV) In my church the leaders have confidence in the checks and balances they’ve implemented for the financial ministry. Those working with church finances have been deemed trustworthy, and I’m sure they are. I do however believe that we are naive if we allow authorities to keep us from scrutinizing financial income, expenses and budgets. Apart from being privy to one another’s contributions, church financials should be open and transparent. Because my request for past and current financial documents was refused, I’m asking myself, ‘Why? What is being hidden? What do they not want me to see?’ I’m now suspiciously looking for motives behind actions. I think President Ronald Reagan had it right, “Trust but verify”

Comparing Notes

At a recent writer’s conference I visited with people from coast to coast and occasionally we shared with one another the struggles taking place in our churches. I asked one woman if she’d read And the Shofar Blew by Francine Rivers. “Yes,” she said laughing. “My friends and I were calling each other saying can you believe how this sounds like our church.” During a similar conversation with others, another woman fired rapidly, “It’s not just my church. Other churches are going through what we are? What’s going on? Is there something spreading across the country through all the churches?” I believe there is in fact a mutated virus spreading through churches. The diagnosis and cure will come when we begin honestly sharing our collective symptoms with one another. As you’ve read in previous blog posts, my church is running a temperature, breaking out in a rash and experiencing heart palpitations. So, how’s your church feeling?

Empty Nesters

I’ve often heard a mixed message from the church. On the one hand we’re expected to use our talents to serve in the church and on the other hand we’re told to go out and make a difference in the world. While my children were still at home I always felt obligated to participate and serve in the youth departments. However, becoming an Empty Nester freed me to serve elsewhere…including areas outside the church. I’ll admit I’m having an inner struggle with guilt feelings for using my volunteer hours in a service club rather than in the church. But, if my children can leave the home nest, I suppose I can leave the church nest.

$$$ Vision

More and more I’ve noticed that secular models of leadership are creeping into the church. During a recent community leadership program I heard representatives from the city, county and other governmental agencies. At times the speakers failed to control their frustration over their agency’s lack of funding. Obviously some of them have forgotten that they serve the people. Much to their consternation, aside from grants and service fees, it is the vote of the people that control their budget. One presenter complained about a particular Colorado law saying, “It’s the worst thing that could have happened. It has put a strangle hold on all of us.” I see some similarities between church and these agencies. Most notably…their vision is bigger than their budget.

Day Off

This weekend I’ll be attending the ‘Writing for the Soul’ writer’s conference in Colorado Springs and there will be no blog on Friday, February 16, 2007. Have a great weekend. Gail

Parade

When I encounter someone new to the community who’s looking for a church home it’s hard to recommend a church when I know so little about other congregations. For instance, if someone were looking for a charismatic church all I could tell them was what I’ve heard through the grapevine. I think the religious community should take a page from the Parade of Homes and do a Parade of Churches. I’d like the opportunity to visit other churches without having to miss Sunday services in my own congregation. Guided tours of community churches would allow us to see different facilities and what they have to offer. We’d have an idea about programs for children and teens, and the adequacy of the nursery. Just like connecting names with faces, it would be helpful to match a pastor with his church. How about an open house for the Lord’s House?

Trust Us

On February 12th there was an Associated Press report on MSNBC with the lead, “Pastor steals church from his flock”. The report states that Pastor Randall Radic sold the First Congregational Church located in Ripton, California out from under the congregation by faking documents and forging papers. Navid Fardanesh, president of the Chamber of Commerce said, “This is a town with a lot of faith. People had a lot of trust in him, and unfortunately he took advantage of the situation.” This is a truly a sad situation; however it should be an example to all congregations. My church, as well as others with a Purpose Driven bent, is offering ambiguous financial reports. When membership is denied full access to financial disclosure, the window of opportunity for misuse of funds is wide open. I take no comfort in hearing the authorities in my church imply, ‘It couldn’t possibly happen to us.’

Phantom Pain

It’s reported that 50-80% of all amputees have phantom pain in the previously amputated limb, and at some point all amputees experience phantom limb sensation. Paul tells us we don’t cease being a part of the body of Christ by saying, “I do not belong to the body”, nor can we say to one another, “I don’t need you.” (1 Cor 12:12-31, NIV). Many churches today are so large that we don’t always see or know when someone is estranged from the congregation. Even though we may not be consciously aware of it, the fact remains that, “If one part suffers, every part suffers with it…”(vs. 26a). Often it’s not until I look over old picture directories or membership list that I experience the phantom pain associated with members that have been amputated.

New Law

In the proposed Bylaw changes for my church I find three curious requirements under the heading of Responsibilities of Members. 1. “Pledge of cooperation by serving with ones (sp) time, spiritual gifts, finances and energies with the body of believers at XYZ Church. 2. Diligence to preserve the unity of the body at XYZ Church. 3. Regular Prayer for the ministry, leadership, staff and members of XYZ Church.” Even though these entries may be desirable, they seem oddly out of place for inclusion in the Bylaws. Who determines the adequacy of a member’s time, gifts, finances and energies? Since praying regularly and preserving unity in the church are Scriptural teachings, does including them in the Bylaws make them more authoritative or any more enforceable?

You Ask Not

When David, my 3 ½ year-old grandson comes to visit we negotiate the menu and he always chooses Spaghettios. Much to the chagrin of his parents, we’ve even had Spaghettios for breakfast. When David gets older he’ll develop new food favorites, but it would be remiss of me to keep serving Spaghettios when he has outgrown them. The writer of Hebrews expressed the need for mature believers to have a diet of solid food. However, as many churches try to attract the seeker group, they continue to serve up the milk of infants. Is it possible that we, as mature believers, are lacking in a diet of solid food because we’ve failed to ask for it…and insist on it?

Dueling Prayers

I was once in a weekly prayer group that averaged six to ten people. We took turns in a clockwise rotation praying for the church and other needs that were brought to our attention. It wasn’t unusual for the person praying to affirm or Amen the prayer of the person who had just preceded him. However, during a time of turmoil in the church, our group wasn’t always in one accord. One person would pray for what he perceived the church needed and then the next guy would counteract or trump ‘that’ prayer with one of his own. Somehow I don’t think these particular prayers of the saints will make it to the golden altar (Rev 8:3).

Pledge of Cooperation

In my experience the Spirit inspires and motivates believers to serve with their time, spiritual gifts, finances and energies. However, the authorities at my church state that one of the responsibilities of members is a ‘pledge of cooperation by serving’ in those areas. Personally, I believe taking a pledge is serious business. To me it’s a promise, an agreement and an obligation. In 1 Timothy 5:12, Paul gives a caution concerning pledges. He states that the list of widows should not include names of younger women because “they bring judgment upon themselves” by breaking their pledge if they decided to remarry. We deceive ourselves if we think we can manipulate a pledge if, or when, we don’t want to fulfill it. Will members revisit this ‘pledge of cooperation’ in six months and find they are faithful…or will they have forgotten their pledge?

Lean on Me

I remember the days when the tempo of the hymn dictated whether you sang it sitting or standing. Many worship directors today keep the congregation standing through the entire music portion of the service. Although they will tell you it’s OK to sit down if you can’t stand for that long, the peer pressure to stay standing remains. After all no one wants to look tired and old in the midst of all that enthusiastic praise. Personally, I believe keeping members standing for 20 to 30 minutes shows a lack of concern and respect for the elderly and those in poor health. Aging often requires ingenuity and I like Jacob’s solution. “By faith Jacob, when he was dying, blessed each of Joseph’s sons, and worshiped as he leaned on the top of his staff.” (Heb 11:21 NIV) Does anyone know where I can buy a staff?

Bingeing and Purging

In the past if you joined the church your name remained on the roll until you removed it. We binged on numbers. If you died and someone forgot to remove your name it was still OK because we could keep on counting you. Even if people hadn’t attended in years, we kept them on the membership roll and the mailing list. It was sort of like leaving the light on for the prodigal son. Today we’re purging the membership list. With the new condensed membership list they can ignore the opinions of those who fail to place membership. They can also save money on postage, remove voting privileges from dead beats, and discontinue shepherding obligations. Early in my marriage there was a period of seven years when we were inactive in church. Had we been removed from the membership roll I’m not sure if we’d have found our way back. I am forever thankful that the door of membership was left open for my return.

Rules of Engagement

Our National Guard serving on the border between the US and Mexico is governed by some interesting Rules of Engagement. It’s my understanding that when they discover illegal aliens crossing the border the only action they are permitted to take is to notify the Boarder Patrol. In a recently reported incident, Guardsmen were confronted and flanked by a large group of men carrying AK-47’s. Surrounded, the Guardsman could do nothing but back away in retreat. I can empathize with our military men and women. It’s frustrating when you’re prepared for battle, completely dressed in the Full Armor of God, and then you hear Scripture whispering in your ear, ‘turn the other cheek’.

Join the Club

It will be interesting to see how the new ‘club’ structure really works in our church. I’ve got more questions than answers when it comes to having to renew your membership each year. Will everyone have the same renewal date, or will notification be sent to members telling them their membership is about to expire? Is there going to be a 30-day grace period for those who are out of town or unavailable? Will there be a special dispensation for people who are residents only six months out of the year? Can shut-ins and nursing home patients use a proxy? How will pastors and elders know from one year to another whether or not you’re a member? Do you suppose this is the way the man got into the wedding banquet without wearing the proper wedding clothes? (Matt 22:11-14 NIV)

Taboo

Without exception, every book I’ve ever read on communication and public speaking stipulates that a speaker is to avoid the subjects of politics and religion. I suppose the originator of this rule was just trying to keep the peace. However, the reality is, this rule has duck-taped the mouths of Christians. Scripture tells us to spread the gospel, but the world says, ‘By all means spread the gospel, just don’t talk about religion while you’re doing it.’ According to Paul, “Since you died with Christ to the basic principles of this world, why, as though you still belonged to it, do you submit to its rules: “Do not handle! Do not taste! Do not touch!”? These are all destined to perish with use, because they are based on human commands and teachings. Such regulations indeed have an appearance of wisdom...” (Col 2:20-23a NIV) Can you picture anyone telling Paul that he had to avoid the topics of politics and religion?

It's a Small World

If you’ve ever been to Disneyland with young children and heard the song ‘It’s a Small World’, you know that it can keep replaying in your head for days to come. Actually, even the mention of the title can trigger the song to go off in my brain. Similarly, I find that many of today’s praise choruses are highly infectious, running circles in my mind and going nowhere. Please don’t misunderstand; it’s not the fault of the music or the lyrics. I just think our churches are full of music directors who are repeat offenders.

Litmus Test

Our leaders recently prefaced their opinion on membership by saying that our, “…standing with Christ, commitment to His kingdom, or eternal life” are not dependant on membership in XYZ Church (I would agree). That being said, we’ve been given a new litmus test for membership. We’ve been told that in order for new members to join the church and for current members to retain their membership, they must annually sign a ‘membership commitment form’. Somehow this just feels like I’m subscribing to a magazine. The newsletter describes it as, “…just an avenue by which you can state your loyalty to this local body…” I never knew that loyalty could be as simple as signing my name once a year.

Commitment

Solicited pledges and commitments in the church always cause me to stop and ponder. A recent sermon titled ‘Membership’ included distributing a Membership Commitment Slip in the worship service. Members, and those desiring to become members, were asked to commit to a lifestyle of Surrender, Study, Sacrificial Giving, Service, Sharing Jesus Christ and Submission. Once signed, participants were to place the commitment slips in a basket in front of the auditorium. Having been a member of one church for 40 plus years, I’m not sure how much more committed I’m expected to get. I can’t help but wonder how my husband would respond if, after 37 years of marriage, I were to ask him to sign a Marriage Commitment Slip. Hmm…

Required Reading

On Fox News I caught just a snippet of the ticker scrolling across the TV screen. In part, the report said a court in Saudi Arabia sentenced a drug lord to memorize the Koran in six months. If he failed to do so he faced lengthy prison time. I find this a fascinating attempt at rehabilitation. Certainly the criminal will be a changed man if in fact he does the memorization. This sentence could never be handed down in the USA…but just imagine the changes in criminals if they had to memorize the Bible.

Spirit-Broken

I just watched ‘Seabiscuit’, a movie about a famous race horse. Referring to the spirit-broken horse the trainer says, “He needs to learn what it is to be a horse again.” I believe this thought applies to some Christians as well. Estranged from the church for many years, one of the girls raised in the church recently moved home. When Sally’s (name changed) husband was suddenly faced with a medical crisis, she said, “I hope somebody up there is listening.” I’m thinking that Sally needs to learn what it is to be a Spirit-filled Christian again.

Master Plan

I attended a community leadership class where speakers often referred to the Master Plans of both the city and the county. Listening to comments about growth and vision, followed by questions of ‘What do you want this valley to look like in 25 years?’, I was struck by how this train of thought has infiltrated the church. Many churches today seem more interested in molding and shaping the future, than they are in dealing with the present. I find it absurd. Really, can you image the Apostles brainstorming about the early church and asking one another, ‘What do we want this church to look like in 25 years?’ Shouldn’t we rather spend time on implementing the plan that’s already in place…the Master’s Plan?

Out With the Old

Most Sunday school teachers and Bible study leaders will keep previously used lesson material in a file just in case they have to teach the same topic again. Not so with my friend Rick, who tosses out all his notes and lessons as soon as they’re taught. “I always thought if I used old lessons I’d be more dependent on them than I would on the Spirit. Even if I were to teach the same subject or book of the Bible, the people in class aren’t the same and it’s likely that the Spirit will have a different message for them. For me as a teacher it’s important to stay open to the Spirit’s leading.” As I think of Jesus teaching on the importance of pouring new wine into new wineskins, it’s probably time for me to discard a few of my old wineskins.

Flock Talk

I once knew a woman who was so absorbed with her family that every conversation included their activities, accomplishments and plans. I’m discovering that where the family of God is concerned, I’m guilty of the same charge. As I let go of volunteer service in the church and look for areas of service in the community, I’m struggling to carry on conversations without relating everything to church. It’s as though I have to change vocabularies and learn a new language. I’d share my frustration with my new civic minded friends, but I don’t think they can relate to the Tower of Babel.

Help Wanted

When the Apostles were having trouble keeping up with all the needs of the early church they parceled out the work load. While they concentrated on prayer and the ministry of the word of God, other disciples were chosen to ‘wait on tables’. One wouldn’t think that waiting on tables would require much in the area of credentials. After all, how hard could it be to distribute food to the widows? The job description however, required that those selected must have the reputation of being “full of the Spirit and wisdom” (Acts 6). Stephen, one of seven men selected was “a man full of faith and of the Holy Spirit” and “full of God’s grace and power”. I sense there is no job in the church so small that it doesn’t require spiritually high standards.

Pre-Nups

At one time the commitment to marriage seemed simple, 'for better or for worse, in sickness and in health ,for richer or poorer, ‘till death do us part…I do.' When the popularity of prenuptials came on the scene things got more detailed and complicated before the ‘I dos’ were exchanged. For almost 100 years our church’s Bylaws were relatively scant and a quick read at two pages in length. However, in a couple of weeks seven and a half pages of new and improved Bylaws will be presented to the congregation for affirmation. In Paul’s day believers wanted to crawl back under the old law...today we just make up new ones.

As a Last Resort

I give the guys in my family a bad time for reading product instructions only when all else fails. Recently I happened to read the directions on some products I’ve use for years and was surprised to find that my dishwasher detergent label says, ‘For best results, separate the silver from the stainless’. My toothpaste for sensitive teeth says, ‘Warning – When using this product do not use longer that 4 weeks unless recommended by a dentist or physician.’ In the church, as in life, we can also stand guilty of overlooking instructions. How often we turn to one another for their advice, rather than turning to the Scripture. I asked my dentist about the toothpaste warning and although he knew it was on the packaging, he didn’t know why it was there…he suggested I call the manufacturer. What a concept…Go to the source.

Rejected Purpose

In the book of Luke as Jesus is describing the ministry of John the Baptist, a parenthetical thought is inserted in Scripture. “(All the people, even the tax collectors, when they heard Jesus’ words, acknowledged that God’s way was right, because they had been baptized by John. But the Pharisees and experts in the law rejected God’s purpose for themselves, because they had not been baptized by John.)” Luke 7:29-30 NIV. It’s not surprising to me that an individual might reject God’s purpose, but as a group the Pharisees and experts in the law might well have numbered 6,000. I find it frightening that these religious leaders collectively rejected God’s purpose for themselves.

Fear Factor

There are Biblical accounts where people believed in Jesus, but would not confess their faith for fear they would be put out of the synagogue. Although we may not be aware of it…or we don’t want to admit it, the Fear Factor can still be seen in our congregations today. Both members and leaders alike use Biblical and spiritual intimidation as tools for controlling the flock. Although we all react differently in a fearful situation, I personally like Joseph of Arimathea’s response. Secretly a disciple of Jesus because he feared the Jews, he boldly went to Pilate and asked for the body of Jesus. Joseph is a good example in how one can be fearfully bold.

Just Another Toe

In my mind I often elevate people in the church who are in leadership roles. I suppose it stems from some of those scriptures that call us to honor and double honor those in authority. Paul, in referring to Christ says, “And he is the head of the body, the church; he is the beginning and the firstborn from among the dead, so that in everything he might have the supremacy.” (Col 1:18 NIV) I know that Christ is the head of ‘the’ church, but my tendency is to think of the Chairman of the elders or the Senior Pastor as being the head of ‘my’ local church. Obviously there is only one Head. I’m going to have to make a concerted effort, even if it does feel awkward, to visualize those in authority as being an elbow, a liver, or just another toe.

We is Me

I’ve recently participated in two separate groups that are designed to promote leadership skills in individuals. In one meeting I was given the role of leader, but when leading the proceedings in a specific area the president gently said, “No, we don’t do that.” I really wanted to ask, ‘Who are we, and why can’t we do that?’ In the other session, our group of five was told to brainstorm and write down ideas. I offered a suggestion to which one of the organizers said, “Oh, they won’t go for that.” Again I’d like to ask, ‘So, who are they and why won’t they go for it?’ Very often we in the church put similar stumbling blocks in one another’s way. Whether servant or leader, zeal and enthusiasm can easily be stifled by hearing, ‘No, we don’t do it that way’. Or ‘Oh, they won’t go for it.’ Someone needs to remind us that in the church, they and we…are me.

Grumbling

Not too long ago on Fox News a former CIA Senior Analyst was asked about CIA leaks. The analyst noted he wasn’t nearly as worried about the leaks as he was about what the leaks revealed. I wouldn’t say we in the church leak…but we do grumble. Certainly our desire is for the church to be peaceful, with everyone in agreement and of one accord. However the reality is that we, like the early church, have conflicts and differences of opinion. It’s easy to point the accusatory finger of grumbling at each other, but grumbling may be a symptom, not an illness. I think the question we should be asking ourselves is, what does the grumbling reveal?

Smorgasbord

When my children were growing up there was a time that our church program wasn’t meeting their spiritual needs. We found that worshipping at our church, going to youth group at the Baptist church and attending Bible study with the Presbyterians worked well for them. At the time I felt we innovatively dealt with our problem, but the religious landscape of today is revealing our solution wasn’t unique at all. Many people are flitting from church to church and program to program in order to have their needs met. On Sunday mornings we often have people coming to a portion of our worship service and then hustling out the door to make it to another church for their program. Without reservation or excuse, worshippers are sampling from a smorgasbord of programs and activities…and they’re not limiting themselves to any particular denomination. Actually I find it appealing to think one could listen to the best preacher in town, scoot over to another church for the best Sunday school teacher in town and then drop by another church for the best fellowship in town. I love buffets!

Trust Me

Recently one of my fellow church members said, “I don’t know why you don’t trust the leaders.” Actually I don’t consider questioning situations and motives as being a trust issue. I’ll admit that I’m a suspicious person by nature, but I don’t believe that to be a negative character trait. For me, blind trust is closely akin to the blind leading the blind. Paul tells us to ‘test everything’ (1 Thess 5:21) and Luke observed that the Bereans examined the Scriptures daily to see if what Paul was saying was true’ (Acts 17:11). I can’t quite picture Paul turning to the Bereans saying, ‘So what...you don’t trust me?’

Healing a Nation

Even in death former President Ford continues to be a healing balm to the nation. His funeral was an instrument that drew leaders together in dignified respect to the office of the President. I saw sparks of patriotism ignited by anthems, uniforms and flags. Certainly God was glorified in prayer, hymns and Scripture. Honestly, the proceedings left me feeling as though I been to worship. In an atmosphere full of reflection and honor, I didn’t have to look for God amongst video clips and loud redundant music. The service was choreographed to lay the President to rest, but I think those privileged to watch the proceedings are the one’s who have found rest.

Taking Care of Self

Years ago our church interviewed a potential candidate for the position of senior pastor. I thought the man’s sample sermon was impressive, but a retired preacher lightheartedly told me, “I’ve never met a preacher yet that doesn’t have at least one good sermon.” Sizing each other up, the candidate and the church at first appeared compatible. However as groups and committees met, the candidate’s conversation began revealing his list of must-haves, I suppose he felt we wouldn’t take care of his needs. One stipulation was that our out-going senior pastor had to leave town. We’ve all heard horror stories of a new pastor living in the shadow of the old pastor. It’s understandable to want a leadership transition to go smoothly, but this situation just smacks of ego. James and John showed us some ego when the asked Jesus if they could sit on his right and his left in glory, but at least they didn’t ask the other disciples to leave town.

Mutiny

During the most recent edition of the TV show Survivor, the host gave contestants on the two tribes the option to mutiny. Each individual had 15 seconds to make their decision, leaving no time to confer with one another. Two players took the opportunity and joined the other tribe changing the dynamics of both teams. I wouldn’t exactly say we have mutinies in the church, but on occasion we do have people jumping ship. To be honest, I do a little rejoicing in my heart when my church gains a new member from another church…especially if that new member is a ‘body builder’ and ready to actively contribute to our tribe. On the flip side of the coin, I’m discouraged when biblically well founded teachers and leaders hop into a life boat and paddle to the church across the street. Actually, God can and does use people in both scenarios, but it can take a year or more for people to establish their credentials in a new congregation. My regret is for the loss that any of our churches suffer while gifts of service are set aside until a person can build their relationship in another church.