It’s hard not to take it personal when you offer comfort to a friend or family member only to have your counsel brushed aside. The rebuff stings even though we may not have enough information, our counsel may have an agenda, or our type of comfort is not what they need at the moment. Job said to his friends, “I have heard many things like these; miserable comforters are you all! Will your long-winded speeches never end? What ails you that you keep on arguing? I also could speak like you, if you were in my place; I could make fine speeches against you and shake my head at you. But my mouth would encourage you; comfort from my lips would bring you relief” (Job 16:2-5 NIV).